PARENT TEACHER SYNERGY
‘Educators need to be willing to educate themselves’ – J Krishnamurthy.
For any child, born in the modern society structure where people live in towns and cities and schools are an institutionwhich almost all the children are required to attend is a well- accepted norm, the two greatest influencers are his parents and teachers. There are numerous other human and non-human influences but the magnitude of impact of one’s own parents and teachers is paramount.
Understanding this magnitude, we believe that a synergy between parents and teachers is at the heart of the journey every child is on, it’s something that will always be part of the child, either to empower him or to cripple him, for his perusal or as his bondage, to be as deep as to lose its separate existence or as an all pervasive sense of do’s and don’ts.
The kind of individuals we are determines the kind of parents and teachers we are and in turn the kind of synergy we will be forming.
To begin to understand the kind of individual we are, an inquiry into oneself would be to examine our inward psychological, emotional and spiritual states of being, keeping in mind that the welfare of the child depends on the well-being of educators. To be able to do this reflection, support each other as we do this, parents and teachers need to have a sound foundation of mutuality, of awakening in each other the confidence to stand out from the existing dogmas and to nurture a quality of wisdom that endures.
Furthermore, in teaching and parenting both, what is important is not the subject but the relationship between the educator and the child. If the relationship between the educator and the child is of care and love, then whatever the educator teaches the child has a much deeper, non-mechanical meaning.
Parenting and teaching requires a multivariate and dynamic stance. It requires a non-routine, attentive response to children’s needs. Nurturing is an opportunity for personal growth. What educators do matters—in talk, behaviour and actions. Their day to day interactions impact their children—their attention, expressed pleasure, listening and interest, as well as limit- setting—all nourish a child’s growing sense of self just as food nourishes a growing body.
Therefore, the qualities of the educator affect the child the most.